Dealing With the Dreaded “Rejection E-mail”


unemployment13Last week I wrote an article concerning how to get ready for a job interview. it was actually an exercise in self-reflection, as I had an interview with an international corporation scheduled for later that morning.

Well, the Good News was that I aced that interview. The Operations Manager was thoroughly impressed by my job history, my professionalism, and the fact that I had done my homework about the history of the corporation.

He told me that I had made it to the second Interview, which would be that Thursday or Friday, and that it would be a “Meet and Greet” with Company Executives. He told me that i would receive an e-mail later in the week with a specific time. He even gave me his business card and told me to call him, if I had any questions.

Needless to say, I immediately called my wife, who was as excited as I was. We spent the week on pins and needles, waiting for the promised e-mail.

As promised, I received an e-mail last Thursday at 6:10 a.m..  However, it was not an invitation to the second interview. It was a letter of rejection for their Corporate Recruiters.

Nice, huh?

Of course, this was not the first I have been thrown off the horse in the Job Search Rodeo, but it was still disappointing to have been rejected, when I nailed the initial interview.

So, how should average job seekers, like you and me, deal with rejection?

Vanderbloemen Research Group has some helpful suggestions on dealing with rejection during your job search:

1. Keep Perspective – It’s human nature to feel like giving up. Do your best to keep things in perspective. God has created you with your unique gifts and skill set. Trust that He will open and close the right doors for you during your job search. As difficult as it is, try not to take the rejection process personally.

2. Stay Positive – Negativity is unattractive. When you’ve been rejected, it’s easy to go into the next job interview already feeling defeated. Stay positive and go into each interview with fresh energy and a positive perspective that this is an opportunity to make a new connection and see where God is leading.

3. Be Thankful – No matter what we are facing, there is always something to be thankful for. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 says, “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” On days when you feel hopeless, write this Bible verse down and put it where you will see it often. If you had a phone or face-to-face interview, thank the interviewer for their time. As you intentionally practice thankfulness, you’ll find it’s much easier to stay positive.

4. Request Feedback – After you have thanked the hiring manager for their time and consideration, respectfully ask for constructive feedback. Even if you thought you were perfect for the job, you don’t know all the details that went into the hiring decision. Respect the hiring manager’s decision, and look at this closed door as a growth opportunity to learn more about yourself.

5. Thoughtfully Reflect – When facing rejection, I recommend journaling to help you reflect on how you’re feeling. I suggest making a list of all your feelings and try to write about why you think you are feeling this way. Then, write down some encouraging Bible verses that speak to your feelings. You may also find it helpful to make a list of action steps to stay motivated as you keep searching. Ask God to show you what He’s teaching you throughout the job search.

6. Stay In Touch – If appropriate, keep in touch with the hiring manager. As you update your resume or attain new preaching samples, send them along with a brief note to the hiring manager. Follow the church or company on social media or join their newsletter to stay updated on the newest job opportunities. You never know when and where new opportunities will present themselves.

7. Build Support System – Be sure you have a strong support system around you consisting of your family, friends, and spiritual community. It’s easy to withdrawal when we feel rejected, defeated, or embarrassed. However, one of the best things you can do throughout your search is keep your support system updated on the type of opportunities that resonate with you and how they can pray for you.

8. Persevere – Don’t give up. As hard as it feels sometimes, giving up is the worst thing you can do. God will never give up on you, so don’t give up on Him.

Persevere, indeed. So, here I am on a Monday morning back in the saddle again (Hey, that would be a nifty title for a cowboy song. Oh…never mind.), as I continue on my seemingly Quixotic Quest to find meaningful employment.

Oh, well. As recent birthday boy Ringo Starr sang, back in the 70s,

You know it don’t come easy.

Never Give Up. Never Surrender.

– Allen



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