Let’s face it. If you are an average working American, you spend more time at your job than you do at home with your family.
Losing a job leaves a void in both your self-identity and your self-esteem. It also seriously messes with your mind, as it tears asunder your daily routine and can completely destroy your financial security.
The state of being unemployed and unwanted by potential employers can seriously affect your feelings of self-esteem, comfort, financial security, and personal control of your life.
Losing a job is a major trauma in anyone’s life. It can affect you like losing someone close to you, like a family member or a friend, and it can put you on your heels, like a divorce or a car accident.
You can feel defeated and demoralized. No longer having some place to go everyday can leave you with a sense of loss, rendering you disoriented, worthless, rejected, and scared.
The fact that today’s employers, a lot of times, don’t even have the grace to tell you that you weren’t chosen, and leave you hanging, waiting to find out if you got the job or not, leads you to beat yourself up over your continued unemployment..
Trust me. I know.
When some hourly Human Resources Clerk does not return your phone calls, it makes you feel about the size of Stuart Little.
And, the worst thing is…you start believing all the negativity about yourself, no matter what great things you have accomplished in your Professional Life.
These negative, self-defeating thoughts start affecting you, governing your behavior. You start eating all day, or not eating at all. or sleeping all day or not sleeping at all.
Once the darkness of depression enters your life, searching for jobs every day, in order to claw yourself out from the abyss of unemployment, becomes an almost insurmountable task.
Thankfully, there are measures you can take, in order to keep the darkness of depression for taking up residence in your mind and heart.
In March of 2010, cio.com posted the following 10 suggestions as to how to deal with depression during your job search. (The suggestions are theirs. The analysis and any smart alack remarks which may pop up are mine.)
1. Maintain a Routine.
Act as if you are still going to work everyday. Get up in the morning, shower and dress. Use that same work ethic which has served you so well in the past, to provide disciple to your present job search.
Just don’t say, “Good morning, Boss” to your spouse. Trust me on this one. I have just about regained the sight in my right eye.
Exercise increases the blood flow. It helps to fight off depression, and generally makes you feel better, physically and mentally…even if it is just going out for a walk, or a “drag”, if you are a dog owner.
Also, even computer programmers have to take a break from staring at the monitor all day. It can make your eyes cross.
3. Keep a Job Search Journal.
In other words, keep a record of what you are doing in your quest to find gainful employment.
When you are feeling down, you can look back on it to find affirmation that you are working hard to get a job. Additionally you can show your family what you are doing.
A journal, or record, will also keep you from contacting the same person twice. I wish some employers, like “The Duck”, would keep one. …I’m just sayin’…
4. Reach Out to People.
Contact your family, friends, and your Facebook and LinkedIn Contacts.
Back before computers, that’s how people found work. You might even actually have a phone or face-to-face conversation with those personal friends and family. **Gasp!**
5. Attend a Support Group.
Networking and Support Groups for unemployed executives cab alleviate your loneliness and improve your self-esteem. somebody may know somebody with a job opening in your area of expertise.
After all, no man is an island. No man stands alone. Hey, that would make a nifty title for a song. Oh. …never mind.
6. Participate in Productive Distractions.
Volunteer at a Non-Profit Organization or a charity sponsored by your place of worship.
Helping others will make you feel better about yourself and take your mind off of your own problems.
Or you could even start your own blog. WordPress and Blogster are both great platforms for blogging. And, they’re FREE!
7. Seek Inspiration.
Watch movies, television programs and webcasts, and listen to CD.s and podcasts which will inspire you.
If you are a spiritual person, embrace your faith. Use your faith to anchor your life through the storm that you are presently going through.
Battle the darkness of depression. When you start to recognize the symptoms, follow one or more of these suggestions. Fight it.
If you are a “Seasoned Professional”, like myself, you will remember the end of every Jerry Lewis MDA Telethon, when, exhausted, his tuxedo shirt unbuttoned and bow tie askew, he would sit on a stool and sing, “You’ll Never Walk Alone”, by Rodgers and Hammerstein…
Walk on through the wind,
Walk on through the rain,
Tho’ your dreams be tossed and blown.Walk on, walk on
With hope in your heart
And you’ll never walk alone,
You’ll never walk alone.
It’s like that.
9. Get Professional Help.
Don’t let the darkness of depression overwhelm you and destroy your relationships and your very life. Nonprofit mental health centers and county mental health agencies may provide counseling services for free or at a reduced rate. You might also look into organizations like Easter Sales, Catholic Charities and the United Way, in order to find local groups that offer free-of-charge counseling services.
10. Maintain Work-Life Balance.
If you are one of those whose job was their entire life, encompassing your self-worth and identity, the loss of a job will, quite literally, be psychologically devastating.
When you finally land a job and return to work, make every effort to balance out work and home. Get more involved with your family and community. Work on “defining yourself” outside of your job.
After all, in today’s business world, jobs come and go…but, you’re stuck with yourself forever.
So, learn to love yourself. He/She’s got a lot going for them.
Never Give Up. Never Surrender.